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Women's Guide To Approaching Men - The Path Of Least Resistance
Essentials of Long-Lasting RelationshipsWhen you're in love fully, to the extreme throes of passion, it's wonderful. Describing it is next to impossible, it’s like taking an adrenaline shot and then bungy jumping. The passion of an intense love is incredible. I believe that everyone has someone out there. Some find them easily, some do not. Not everyone can feel passion, however. Opening yourself to a relationshipOpening yourself to a relationship so fully that you actually lose your mind is a dangerous, scary and exhilarating thing. It can be wonderful. But passion isn't enough. There comes a time when that bright passion that carried you along fades a little. Sometimes, it just vanishes. Where are you then? If all that your relationship consisted of was big passionate moments, you might start to feel differently. I've nailed down the important things in any relationship (whether friendship or deep love...). (1) Commitment.
It has been said that men can sense when a woman lacks confidence and will reject her on that score. As a result, the woman becomes even less confident, which leads to even less confidence. I've found shyness often comes from being worried about what others think of you. I used to be quite shy. Then I realized one day. Why do I care what others think of me? Believe it or not, since that day I have been a lot more outgoing. It’s a mental block that you have to get over, and for me just realizing what it was, got me over it. How to gain confidence with men?
Don't let fear cripple you ever. Do not be afraid to say something. You will regret more wanting to have said something but never having said it than saying something that resulted in rejection. Speak with your feelings and if the other person cannot appreciate that, move on. Being a friendly person makes you desirable for the opposite sex
Don't play games after the "playing games" portion of dating is concluded, though. People who play endless games don't make for very good partners. Find more about the Steps to approaching women in an e-book:
In a First Chapter of "Women's Guide To Approaching Men - The Path Of Least Resistance" [ Developing A Healthy Self-Esteem - Learning to talk ] you will learn:
How to start conversation in an appropriate way?
That is assuming you two already know each other a little and aren't complete strangers. If you are, then I would suggest a simple introduction at first.
On the other hand, the best that can happen... Well, that's an entirely different subject... So in other words, you've got nothing to loose and everything to gain. So just go for it. When talking to him, don't worry about making any kind of impression. Don't try to think of what you'll say before you say it. Just be you 100% and if that’s what he likes, then you'll get that date.
First, 1. Take the initiative. For instance, don't wait for someone to start talking to you, introduce yourself. People are usually relieved when you take the initiative. In those rare cases when they are not pleased, you know you did your best to be friendly, so the problem must be with them. Either way, you avoid feeling shy because you are doing something, and focusing on something outside yourself. 2. Second, focus on the situation around you You have to give up worrying about what impression you are making. You will create a much better impression by being engaged than by saying something clever. If you have to start talking on a new topic, talk about something about the immediate situation. Try to make it positive. If you speak in negative terms, people you do not know will tend to worry that you will be talking negatively about them next.
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I was able to spend YEARS longing to talk to a man - but was to shy. My feelings would get more intense every day and my shyness with it. So I would suggest that you try to overcome your shyness as soon as possible and make your first move.
It WILL make you feel better either way. Maybe it would take a few days to cope with a rejection, but you’ll learn from failures and rejections too.
I know it's easy for me to say.
One word of advice: don't let your shyness show.
People can tell right away if you start talking like "Hmmm, Ahhh, Well..."
You shouldn't come on strong, but not too weak like a wimp. It's hard to describe, because each person you encounter has a different personality and there is ALWAYS a different approach to meet him.
What does it boil down to?
Be yourself.
Well you'll have to rely on some romantic ingenuity to throw some signals his way. Whatever you do, DON'T do a "secret admirer" act. Maybe the first time, ok. But if he's not interested and you carry it on too long, you'll be disappointed.
Ideas?
Each person has a different way of interpreting things.
Well basically there are the two options:
1) Not to do anything, OR
2) Be initiative - in which case there is the danger of rejection.
Don't ask him out until you at least sort of know him.
That's the point. Start with just meeting him.
Then, worry about relationships. I personally advise against declaring your intentions to be either romantic or non. I'd say just go for things that sound fun, and don't worry what it's called.
But basically, just get to know him, and then decide what to do.
And, assuming you do, ask him out:
Think of some funny way to do it. Explain that your horoscope told you might be getting married, and ask him if his said the same.
Being a deathly shy person, chances are that your approach is going to come off as very nervous and awkward, assuming you get the nerve to do this at all.
I recommend the gradual approach like:
- Meeting him in the hallway,
- Saying 'hi',
-Making some small talk, etc.
is easier to start, and you even get a better idea of what he is like, and how he feels about you.
Then write something nice and sign it " Your Secret Admirer" or " A Hopeful Friend" which ever you feel applies.
Then keep sending little notes, poems, and surprises, but don't sign your name to anything this will keep him wondering.
I'm sure it will brighten his day.
When you feel you've worked up your courage write one more note asking him out to something not to fancy but still nice, for example dinner at a certain time. This way you don't have to worry about your shyness getting in the way of asking him out.
Be careful that your shyness doesn't stop him from getting to know the real you once you do go out. After all, the other things only give him a glimpse of you.

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In a Fourth Chapter of " Women's Guide To Approaching Men - The Path Of Least Resistance" : [ Learning the art of smooth communication ] , you will learn:
| Golden 7 Rules For Dating For Women: |
These are the rules for dating for women.
What men are expected to do on each and every date:
1. Man is fully responsible for everything that happens
In all dating situations, the man is fully responsible for everything that happens, regardless of the circumstances
2. Do not ask a man for a date if you work in the same company or business
Also, do not ask a man for a date if you have regular business dealings with him or if you live near him.
3. If you decide to ask a man for a date, ask exactly one time
If he says "no" or any answer other than a clear "yes", never ask again.
Rules have been explained along with 4, 5, 6, & 7 in the e book “Women's Guide To Approaching Men”
From my past and preset relationships I’ve learned one thing for sure: good and open communication is the KEY for any relationship. Watch your daily social activities, and you’ll find out that most of our time was spent in communication.
However most of us find the communication with the opposite sex quite difficult. It’s still the unexplored territory.
There is no easy way to do it.
And that skill is never learned in school, even not in a family. We used to communicate with our friends and coworkers, but when it comes to approaching the girl a lot of us get stuck.
What should I tell him, and still sound like a confident person?
What If he rejects me, I cant’s stand embarrassment in front of the crowd.
How can I know if he is single? She is so pretty that she must have a boyfriend.

Screenshot of the E-book - "Women's Guide to Approaching Men"
I think it all comes down to one word:
" choice!"
Without even realizing it, every day, we each make hundreds, perhaps thousands of choices. Most are mundane, decided on an almost subconscious level. Focus On Meeting People And Making New Friends.
I’m also sure you’ve been told the famous quote: “You’ll meet someone when you least expect it.” And believe me this is not a just a proverb, it happens everyday to regular folks just like you think you are.
Making casual friendships with a lot of guys leads you to your primary goal.
Feeling relaxed in he presence of a guy you are attracted to.
I can hear you asking:
“I don’t want to chat up guy first and then realize that he is already in a romantic relationship, married or not interested at all i me”
Stop worrying about what you’re going to say next when you finally started conversation. Focus all your attention and energy on listening to what the man is saying to you.
Try to visualize or “feel” what he’s saying.
This does take a little effort. It’s not very hard to do, but it’s not something that women “naturally” do. You simply have to concentrate.
Now when listening you want to pay particular attention to any “seeds” or free information he happens to throw your way.
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