Heart_Break_Kid

So, we were out with some friends, hanging out in the arcade. I was locked in a thrilling game of table tennis with some friends. So this guy approaches my girl and begings making conversation. He was intrigued by her hair, she had actually tried a kind of reddish die on it, and he complimented her on it. She looked really cute, and I observed, so I just smild, i mean,it feels good to know a guy is into your girlfriend. And it was not like a date where he came rudely and did it. So i didnt mind. They talked for a while, i noticed she was blushing, and he was really doing everything right, such as confidence, eye contact, etc. Eventually he asked her out, and she explained to him she was with me. So he apologised, and he saw me looking, and he smiled. Anyways, she went to the mall a few weeks ago with her friends, and apparenlty he was there, and she said he saw her and he waved. She said she felt a bit bad that she had turned him down, after how he came all confident, so she decided to just show him she appreciated it, and she went over and said hello. So they talked, and well, turns out, he asked her for her BBM pin, and said, that although she is unavailable, he would like to be her friend, because they got a lot of the same interests. So they exchanged, and well, i guess over the time since then, they have grown close. They are always chatting online and stuff, and meeting up! Lol, i know, its wrong to be jealous, and yes, she has a life of her own, but i am like wondering.

She has been very honest thus far, she tells me when they go out, she mentions what they do, she doesnt hide anything, and she is very open. Our relationship is really nice. But I am wondering if perhaps there is more you know. I mean, she felt bad for rejecting him because of how brave he was, but shouldn't she not feel that way, i mean, we are together, so technically he was not rejected, he was more, explained to. Anyways, they are pretty close. And i mean, the guy, he asked her out, flirted, met her, everything, and i mean, you can't just go from that to accepting friendship. What if he has ulterior motives? I trust my gf, i know she wudnt do that, and if she does leave me, i will accept it. But do you guys think I should be worried here.

Geez, i just got over the deal with one of her friends being all love dovey with her, not a flirter is into the mix lol. I have expressd some of my concerns to her, and she assures me they are friends, and she is not leaving any room for him to make any moves, but i mean, u know... relationships build... things happen. I guess it is a silly thread, but it also is alarming lol. Then it is kind of unfair, because I do get to be friends with other girls, even those i just met... and she never minds or says anything. But then again,, i dont mind her with guy friends, but my main concern, this guy showed interest, he asked her out, settled for friendship. SO HE COULD EASE THE BOYFRIEND OUT?? >.<

Hey everybody.

I know I havent been around much. Was in my final year for university, been keeping myself focussed trying to get everything down to graduate this year. So it was successful!

Now just an update, regarding me and my girlfriend. We have grown so close to each other. We are in a really comfortable state, we are pretty close to each other's families now. We are welcomed by each other's home for any parties etc. And our families have even grown a bit close as well. The feeling of having a girlfriend is not so new again.

So now comes the new problems lol. Before you know, you guys advised me to talk about em, and we do, but now we are at that stage where, certain things are now expected of each other lol. For instance, at a recent get together, my uncle's birthday party, when we were all preparing to eat, I was playing a game of cards with my cousins, and she took out my food for me, exactly what I like, and left out the stuff I don't and well she gave it to me. I know for sure though she did it on her own, cause my mom and sister was telling her that I was too spoil, and she was spoiling me more lol. You know it is like, we are at that stage where, there are things we are supposed to know, and certain signals we are supposed to pick up on. I of course, do things like that for her too. Like she is having a bad day, I would surprise her with desert, or you know a simple dinner, or carry her out for a drive to get some pictures of nice sceneries etc. She likes those things. Now there are certain things I don't pick  up on, actually a lot lol. She knows when something is bothering me, she knows when I am happy, she JUST KNOWS! LIKE WTH! For me, i sort of, sometimes I do silly things, and she may disapprove, but i do it still, and sometimes i realize her signals too late. Recently she got a bit angry at me for not actually understanding her uneasiness with one of my best friends She and my best friend (a girl) i mentioned about before on here. They hate each other lol. Well hate is too strong, but they had a very petty argument, and sort of avoid each other. And I was adamant on taking em both to the movies. She apparently gave me a lot of hints regarding the uncomfortable situation and even said my friend was giving me those too. In addition she explained how I rarely read what she is saying to me and stuff. So it is things like that I guess.

In addition, I really don't think I ever did something like that for her, such as taking out her food... and you know, those little things. I buy her stuff, like chocolates, and currents roll, and donuts, I know she loves donuts! And i always buy her books I know she would like. But i dont feel it is enough. Because she does all these things too... but there are just some extra  little things she does that is pretty er..... it is... MORE than i ever give her you know what I mean?

I have been trying really hard to read her signals, but I just can't... i have no clue what she wants sometimes. There are a few i detect, but just sometimes I don't know.

She really doesnt seem to mind, but I just think this is a case where I can't really talk to her about it, it is something that needs to be understood. Such as, if you got a friend, and he is in trouble, you go help him... you dont go asking him if he needs help.

So yeah, what can you guys advise? She does not seem to mind, it is more something I want to change for myself. I want to do stuff like that to surprise her.

Hey guys, i cant find the last post i made here where i was discussing something similar, about this guy in my girlfriend's class. Who was very charming, flirty, and had all the girls head over heels for him, including her lol. I am not really the jealous type, she has a lot of guy friends, and she goes out with all of em sometimes, and I trust her, and I know she trusts me too. With this guy, I am growing a bit wary.

To begin with, he spends a lot of time with her... more so that her other CLOSER guy friends... *beep* EVEN MORE THAN ME!!! THE BOYFRIEND!!! He is always around lately, always in the library with her, going to lunch, all sort of things. Her girl friends are usually with them, but on occassion, they are alone. They are doing some creative writing course, that requires a pair, and well the two of them are in a group. They spend a lot of time working on it, so i understand to that aspect.

The other day, I was free, all my friends had classes, so I went to the mall to stroll a bit, i got a bite to eat, watched a movie! I HAPPENED TO BOUNCE EM UP!! Turns out, they got bored working on the essay, and they decided to just go hang out somewhere. I was cool with it, i mean, yeah, she has her own life, she doesnt need to tell me everything she does, but she usually mentiones things like that lol. I know, its a friend too, but i mean... her other friends, she wud usually drop a text like, "hey hun, i am going out with a couple of friends, see you later!" And i usually do the same, ESPECIALLLY WHEN I AM GOING OUT WITH GIRL FRIENDS lol.

When she saw me in the mall though, she did her usual cute little smile she always does for me. And I know deep down, its nothing. But the guy.... HE IS SOOOOO CHARMING AND SWEET. The dude was like opening all the doors for her and stuff lol. I ended up walking with them, but... its like, he was racing me to it!! lol. Ok no, not like that, but he was sort of doing those stuff, and she seemed to really be encouraging the flirting, cause she was like, aww soo sweet!

Argh, please help me lol. What can I do to avoid getting these kind of jealous scenes? lol. Writing it here, i see its not that bad what i am saying lol... or is it? Is this something that should concern me? I know for a fact she loves me, and she spends every moment with me! but, since this project... she has been spending a lot of time with him, and since our years and faculties are different, we got different schedules... so most times, they end up being free together. Her facebook, geez he is her number 1 fan on that application thingy lol.... they are always wall posting and commenting... DUDES... SHE RARELY EVEN WRITE ON MINE ANYMORE (though, i had told her about this, and currently she is doing the alphabet every day on my profile, she is at T now lol) ! But, i have seen a few posts where he asked if she was free some day, and she was like, nope! that day is reserved for my cupcake (me ) lol... we had made a date that day lol. His response was nice... but HE STILL WAS FLIRTY!!! Her friends on her facebook too... they always like talking about him, and on some conversations, they talk like... she has a secret crush (its a lot of lolz and chaos in these conversations). But i am thinking, is it possible things like this, cud lead her to like... replacing me? The guy, i spoke to him a few times, and he doesnt seem interested in having a girlfriend right away.. cud it be he is really focussed on schol, or is he **** focussed on ONE girl? >.<

Some extra info: My relationship with her is perfect though. We love each other. sometimes on days she just skips classes to be with me...I skip to be with her. We have dates at least once or twice a week, or every two weeks etc. We confide secrets in each other, and tell everyone's secret to each other lol. so yeah, no doubting this.