Heart_Break_Kid

Coolguy sorry for taking so long to respond, been pretty busy these days!!

Anyways forgive me if my response isnt adequate, i took about 45 minutes reading that thoroughly lol.

Okay well first thing is first, you seem to be in a state now where you are confident, which is good. However you lack the confidence in meeting someone where a situation doesn't present itself. That is generally okay, because to meet people we need something to play off of. For instance the bookstore, you can strike up a convo about a book.

However, there is a situation you can use here. Why don't you try one day telling her something like. "Hey, you know, I come here often, and I see you here sometimes. Decided to say hello. I was actually contemplating going somewhere else for a drink since I come here all the time, would you like to join me sometime?"

Honestly, you said you see her rarely. 2 times in 2 weeks... i think honestly if she rejects you thats no problem, because she would know you are a regular. Based on what you said, it does sound like she is interested in you, or at least recognises you around. It shows she knows you, recognises you, so therefore you know each other despite not knowing each other. You're a regular, so its like ur part of the family. Even if she rejects you, you just continue your normal routine. She may be normal with you or not... but you just go about your usual business. Deep down honestly people like to be asked out. If she does reject you then, while it may be awkward, she would be proud that you did show interest. She may avoid you so you wont get the wrong idea, but she will not hold a grudge against you.

So just give it a go you know. Nothing wierd will happen, and if it does, you see her rarely. So it should not bother you too much. As you said in number 5, she said hello to you. I think thats a sign that she does know you and she did come back in to see you. She probably did what she did to delay you a bit as well. Number 6 was a busy day as you said, so she probably was a bit tired, and she did speak to you. The lack of interest could be that she was tired, and she was just trying to move on fast. Then number 7 shows that she is familiar with you and know syou. She probably has an interest. I think perhaps she is waiting for you to make a move. You need to just go for it. Instead of just choosing to give up on her, how about asking her out and seeing what happens. If she turns you down, you give up, if not... well, see what develops. Don't overthink things you just have to let it develop. Else you will pass up on chances that will come.

When I met my girlfriend, it was during registration. She was in her first year and didn't know certain places. She winded up making the first move though, but she had no idea if i was interested or not. She did things to make a situation. She asked me for help finding certain buildings. When she built that foundation, she asked for my number so if ever she got lost or anything she could call me. So she made a situation. Maybe you can too!!

I thought meeting my girlfriend's family was hard, luckily we were of the same culture so it was easier in that respect.

The key to meeting other cultures is to show interest in said culture. For instance, I have a christian friend who would never speak about my god, or religon or even wish me anything on our festivals simply because my religon is "WRONG" and his is "RIGHT". So a person like him, i would not want around my daughter lol.

Now, you are allowed to have your own views, but the objective is to show that you are not closed minded and that you will be open to their cultural customs too. If you read up on their culture, you can ask certain questions to help build conversation, AND if you don't know anything, thats fine too. Just ask questions, show that you care about listening to what they have to say. Once they see you respect their culture, they will respect you, and then your culture.

Goodluck with it. Be brave, go strong, and trust me, meeting the parents isnt so bad. Look to the mom for support especially! lol.

Well you guys did exchange texts until that point. Might I ask what the last text was? She may have been busy, or she probably ran out of money on her phone. Perhaps if you dont hear from her for the enxt few days, give her a call. That way it shows you care. No matter how forward, if you are interested do it

Oh i just stumbled upon this past post lol. This was about a year ago.

Well it all worked out eventually. I tried a few times, and they got mad at me cause I invited them to the movies and stuff with each other, and they kept sending me signals they didnt want to, but i didnt read em and we got into all sort of conflicts lol. Anyways, we did go, and I sat in the middle of em.

But overtime I dunno, it just blew over, cause they talk and stuff now. I guess its just when they began coming around a lot more when we hang out with friends and stuff. now they go shopping and stuff together.

I said it several times, and i will say it again... Girls are wierd..

Okay firstly you should not look down and hate on your friend. Sometimes things happen in our lives that just cause us to be a certain way. I don't think she meant to hurt you in anyway.

As for approaching women, there are several things you could do. Like what I began doing, I would go to the mall alone, and whenever is ee a girl in a store, just smile and be like good afternoon etc. I began doing it around campus. I didnt meet anyone, but it helped me feel comfortable talking around them. I went from just whispering hello, to actually saying it clear enough for them to hear. You have to just be confident, and those steps could help. Simple hellos to begin with.

Also, another fear could be that you are afraid of rejection. and we all are. The trick with rejection is to shove that out of your mind. You have to tell yourself you are an amazing person, if someone rejects you, it is their loss, and dont hate them, view it as a good thing, cause it means the right one is still out there, and you're not wasting your time.

I know the mentality sounds a bit arrogant, but you have to just remember to not doubt yourself. Try to be confident. Some will like you for who you are, some will not. You be confident in yourself. Its like anything you do, you don't start off perfect at it... you will be new to it, make mistakes embarass yourself haha, but in time you figure out how to do it.

Just try to be yourself, because you want someone liking you for you, and not for someone else.