Singles Dating Forum: Online Dating Relationships Advice: He Is Confusing Me With His Mixed Signals! - Singles Dating Forum: Online Dating Relationships Advice

I have know this guy for a while. We are definitely not strangers, and have flirted a bit in the past with eye contact, "accidental" touching. Sometimes, though,he can be very shy around me even though heis very outgoing with everyone else. Well, I saw him recently standing near me and talking to a guyfriend of his and I calledhis name.He looked up and froze"Hi",he said deer in headlights."How are you?" I said, a bit taken aback by his reaction. Still frozen to the spot and not making any move to apprach me he says "Fine".Now, I was starting to feel uncomfortable ."How is school?" I ask in one last despearteattempt at having a normal converstion. "Good",he stammers. I felt so stupid I jsut walked away. Someof my friends and I thought maybe Ijust make him nervous and I should do somethingto break the ice so I sent him an email asking him about a homeowork assignment and well.....that was 3 days ago and he has not replied. Other than the fact that this is so rude...why is he behaving like this all of a sudden to me? Can anyone out there help me figure this out b/c nowI feel really embarrassed. Thanks!

Hi ladeedah,
First of all, I think its a small problem becoz from your description of him, he is very comfortable with his other pals but nervous in front of you. Basically, if I'm not wrong, he's a shy guy, but only in front of someone he has special feelings for. Most guys do feel that way in front of someone he likes, the fact that he showed little reaction when you talked to him the other day is perhaps becoz he was seized by one of his very shy days, plus his fren was around him and he felt extra pressure and juz stood frozen in time, not knowing wat to do. Its not that he is trying to embarrass you, thats the last thing he wants to do to someone he likes, or even loves. Hence, its rather reasonable to conclude tat he felt embarrased by what he did to you the other time and may be thinking to himself that he blew it. Shy guys tend to pessimist, so its no wonder that he didn't respond to your email. Right now, I guess the best way is to talk to him or email him again telling him how you feel. Though its an awkard situation right now, but there are only two ways out. If you dun think you like him enough after this incident, forget about him and find new targets. If now, which I probably think you would like to try is to talk to him, get answers from him and clear up this ambiguous situation. Its the best way to get the true picture though it may not be the most protective way. its up to you or him now, hopefully my suggestions works and gd luck to you, any gd news pls inform us, ok, we would like to share the joy with you.

Coming from a guy who used to be shy himself...I agree. Your friend here is a shy guy ...which should loosen the tension for you. He's not intentionally trying to embarrass you...he's shy. Which might mean, he thinks about you a lot and wonders what he could say to you if he ever saw you. So by freezing up liek that...I think he's probably kicking himself for doing that.

Wait it out...give it a few more days for him to respond to that email. If he doesn't respond...send another one...tell him how you feel and see how he reacts. Like Christabonal said...shy people tend to be a bit on the pessimist side. Maybe he thinks...you're way out of his league and that he wouldn't have a chance. Perhaps because of this...he thinks by answering to your email he's giving himself false hopes. Whatever the circumstance...nothing is for sure...so the only way to find out is to be upfront and ask...or tell him how you feel.

By the way...the most important question...how do you feel about him? Think about it and decide...what you wanna do.

Good luck to you
-Beachead