I Feel Like Im Destined To Be Alone
Posted 28 November 2011 - 01:53 PM
Hi im super unique and fun and love to party (please insert a few good looking pics of said girl) im not some **** looking for a one night stand but im totally spontaneous and deep and bubbly and smart. (im basically fusing together all the profiles i've come across) I'll give anyone a chance so message me but if your not my type i won't give you a chance! i want a man who will love me, cuddle with me, kiss me, and treat me right, if thats you then step up, but if it isn't then don't bother! I love playing video games and reading and i want to be a doctor, bla bla bla bla balaaa. ktnxbye!
The end result is they are really looking for a guy who will take care of them, love them, treat them right and all that good stuff. I know for a fact that i am that said guy (i don't mean that i am the one for them, but i have all of those in my qualifications) i know that im shy and i don't really know how to talk to girls but i try to make sure that i state my intentions clearly. I know not everyone on those sites wants a relationship but i have literally emailed hundreds of girls and maybe out of that 10 have bothered to message me back with more than three words. I wonder if I'm really that ugly because i know that im not a shitty person, when i ask a question from them im actually wanting to hear their answer, i actually care about what they have to say and im actually interested in them for more than just their physical looks, im pretty sure its obvious that im interested in dating them. I must be freaking ugly as *beep* or something... I feel like im destined to be alone, each day my depression only worsens and i don't want to go back to that point of just hating life. i don't know how to make myself more handsome... or desirable. i guess women are really only after super rich vampire pirate guys with six pac abs named edward depp.
Posted 29 November 2011 - 11:32 AM
Having a girl of your own will not cure your depression. It might cure you loneliness but if your feeling down and out now, then there is nobody who can pick you up from it but you. You don't want your happiness to be tied down with any particular person anyway because what happens if the relationship breaks up and they leave? It puts too much unwanted pressure on the relationship and you don't want to become dependent on that. If your feeling really down and out then have a chat to someone about it. Talk to a friend or family member that you can trust or call a local help line in you area. There is nothing wrong about seeing a professional counsellor about this issue and they can advise you on how to best overcome depression for good.
In answer to your loneliness problem, there is nothing wrong with online dating. Online dating provides a good forum whereby single people can have a chat to others and hook up if the conditions are right. Don't loose hope because you have sent 100 messages and only received 10. It will be worth it to send 10000+ just to find the right girl for you. Life is going to continue hitting you hard so make yourself a promise to pick yourself up and forge ahead. You seem to be a nice guy who has all the qualities to make a girl happy. Perhaps before you start sending out further messages you might want to write down the qualities that you want in a girl and then scrutinize the next couple of girls to see whether they actually have what you like in a girl! If your solely basing your choices on looks only then be prepared to be rejected on looks too. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder so every girl is going to have different tastes in men.
If your out of shape physically then you can go to the gym and fix that. If you don't like your job then you can find another one that pays better. If you want to be interesting then read some books. Is it possible for you to make friends with some of these women online? Have you tried dance classes or yoga classes? Be adventurous in your quest to find your perfect girl. I think that there is a lot of fight in you so keep positive and keep moving forward.
All the best - Bud.
Posted 15 December 2011 - 04:30 PM
Posted 29 December 2011 - 05:27 AM
Don't give up. I know it's hard not to get depressed but you will succeed. Hopefully you can get out of that small town soon. Bartenders are in demand in a lot of cities with tons of single women.
Posted 16 March 2012 - 09:25 PM
Posted 11 September 2012 - 04:05 AM
0 user(s) are reading this topic
0 members, 0 guests, 0 anonymous users