Posted 17 April 2011 - 02:50 AM
Master The Fine Art of Talking to Women?
What should you look for to know whether he/she's truthful and suitable mate for you? Date a woman on par with you. As in don't reach out of your league.
How to lead casual conversation with a romantic spark? Aspects of flirting that distinguish it from the ordinary courtesy. What are attraction turn-offs for most people?
How to find something in common to talk about? What kind of signs do girls give you when they're interested? Follow this advice and eventually you will have to work on figuring out which girls you want to keep.
Hello first time poster!
Well first i'll give the rundown of who I am. An overweight young man that's never dated, flirted, been friends with a woman.
This is a peculiar situation, I will focus on flirting.
I just can't flirt. I really really feel awkward when saying things like "you're gorgeous" or anything of that sort. I sort of put myself in the other person's shoes, to the point where I empathize with the woman that, if a guy like me said something like that, it would come off as "creepy" and I would be labeled as a creepy man by her and any of her friends. If I met them down the road and needed their help (for whatever reason) they may remember me as a creep/pervert/whatever. Which I just can't handle that stress.
Overall I am an extremely nice guy most of the time. I smile to everyone I meet and try and make acceptable first impressions. Because you never know. Talking to women is also a no brainer for me. I can talk forever with a woman if I had the time and the topics, proper eye contact, try to say the correct things, etc. However going over the edge and actually flirting with women is, alien to me. It's something I am not used to and really out of my comfort zone. I'm not afraid of rejection, I am afraid of getting a stigma attached to me.
I've tried getting a bit of practice over the web, where I have some anonymity, saying things that still makes me uncomfortable. But I think that's just awkward for both groups anyhow.
The only advice I seem to see is "GO OUT AND DO IT". Which does not help at all
. Even simple things like asking a woman out to go for coffee is awkward, if I was a woman and some man came up to me and said that I would be horrified. Not being exactly a marketable piece of meat, it's unlikely a woman will make the first move on me.
Anyhow, my fears are founded. I am unsure of how to handle this situation as most websites assume that flirting is just a natural thing to do. There aren't really any women that I would naturally flirt with, and I think I have enough self-control to make sure that doesn't happen automatically.
I have other problems, but I think this is the biggest of them right here. If I can get over that, I can break down most other barriers in my way.