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All you guys ought to read this...

Hello all... I was searching on the net for something else completely but I saw this thread and it interested me enough so I signed up just to tell you this...

I'm 22 years old male and over 6'2"... I'm not skinny and not fat, actually quite well built and nice looking. I'm still a virgin and in my whole life had only 2 girlfriends which I never got to do anything with.

This is killing me that I have close to 0 experience with girls and when girls hit on me I automatically reject them or play cold / hard to get because I'm scared to take it one step further because I know that I wouldn't know what to do with them !!!

Let me give you a recent experience, I'm in college and live with 2 of my room mates... we went to play pool and one of the girls that studies with my room mate was asking him later about me and wanted to hook up... so there was a birthday party for one of their friends and I was asked to come just cuz that girl wanted to hook up with me, she was hot, and during the whole night I barely spoke to her and well when the party ended she said "that big thing is coming home with me" (was refering to me)...

My buddies went back to play pool when the party ended and I was driving with the girl in the car... I suddenly felt like I couldn't breath and I just asked her to drop me off at the pool place and she was really disappointed and asked me to come back with her and like a loser I turned her down.

Well all you more experience guys over here might ask why did this guy turn a hot chick down? Here are my fears I'm facing.... first I'm very shy around girls and I don't even know what to talk with them about, and even if I talk to them it's never gonna be flirting or talking about sex, you know what I mean? Another thing, I wouldn't even know how to french kiss the girl let alone kiss her normally, she would immedately detect the insecurity on me. Okay what else... I probably wouldn't even know how to take off her bra...

Obviously I've seen over a zillion movies but it still wouldn't help when it would come to my first time experience , I couldn't know how to please her. Just thinking about the whole thing is so awkward and emberassing for me that's why I never get to that stage with girls because I'm afraid to humiliate myself. Do I really need the next day in college words spreading out I'm a 22 yr old virgin who cant even kiss or do anything in bed... I bet she would tell all her friends about me ....

I may look intimidating on the outside, you see a tall buff dude, but bring a chick to me that will hit me and see what a *beep* I am, get me?

My best friend gets all the in the world and treats his girlfriend the shittiest ever, I don't know how he does it, or how he dares to say those things, it's just not in me....

Oh yeah and my roomm ate... I don't think he can reach my chin.... why? cuz he knows how to talk and how to be secure... but even if I was secure and knew how to talk I still wouldn't know what to do in bed yet... and I don't just wanna get laid, I got lots of love and warmness to give only if I wasn't so shy sometimes I wish I wasn't born....

I'm not exactly a stunner myself, but I'm usually drawn to shorter men. Being only 5'4" myself, my ideal height in a guy is usually 5'6" to 5'8". Looks really don't matter to me though. If I fall for a guy, his looks are the least of my concerns. None of the guys I have been with have come even close to my physical ideals.

The guy I'm currently seeing is rather tall, over 6'. And believe me, I would really prefer it if he was more at my level when we're both standing. Some of you guys really need to grow up. If you think the reason women don't like you is because of your looks, you're probably wrong. It probably has more to do with your personality and approachability.

And just to tell you the truth, if I knew a guy was someone who had regularly paid another person for sex (even if he didn't do it anymore), I would probably not want to be with him.

Why would you want to date a woman who doesn't even give you a chance because of your height? She's obviously not worth the trouble.

Personally, I love to dominate a man. Of course, I'm only talking about in the bedroom here and not ALL the time. It doesn't have anything to do with his physical size. He could be 5' tall or 6' tall; it wouldn't matter as long as I loved him. I just know what I want and I do it. I wouldn't call myself a dominatrix. I only give pain if the guy is into it. I'm always careful to be considerate of his wants and needs.

On the other hand, I don't want a man who thinks he has to assume a "traditional role." C'mon you guys, this is the 21st century. I just want an equal.

[You sound like you just need to meet a kind and loving young woman who you can get to know at your own pace. Once you feel comfortable just being around her, I don't think you'll find the whole "sex" thing to be that much of a problem. If the girl truly is a kind and considerate person, I don't think she'll have any problem with you being a virgin. Just be honest with her. If she is aware that you don't know what you are doing, I'm sure she can take the initiative. She's not going to laugh at you if she really cares about you. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18 myself. And I was actually only 18 the first time I even KISSED a guy. T

hey weren't the same guy though. The guy I lost it to acted really nice to me; I think he basically just told me everything I wanted to hear. I was young and stupid; I didn't know what I was doing either. Sex-wise and also just relationship/guy wise. He just used me for 2 different nights of sex. And the sex was awful too, because my needs didn't even factor in for him. I think I only slept with him in the first place because he was really the only guy my whole life to give me any kind of decent attention. And he sure SEEMED like a nice guy.

Men can be such devious little fuckers sometimes. (Just wanted to mention that this guy was both short AND balding, yet I found him very attractive.) So anyways, after that guy, I was friends with this other guy for a while. Developed a crush on him. And slept with him one night. It's a long story that I don't really want to get into it. I'll just tell you that it didn't turn out well. I was into him, and he obviously wasn't into me at all. The sex was also, again, just awful. This was when I was 18 or had just turned 19, can't really remember.

Now, finally, at the age of 23, I've just become sexually active again. Just these last couple weeks really. I met a great guy. Someone who actually cares about me. The weird thing is, that I had only had sex 3 times before this. All of which majorly sucked. Yet with him, it was so different. It was like I knew exactly what I wanted and it all just came so naturally to me. I was actually the one who was the sexual aggressor, believe it or not. I just made sure I communicated with him. Asked if he was okay with me doing this or that, and telling him that if he wanted me to stop at any time to just let me know and I would. Effective communication is a REALLY big part of sex, especially if you want the sex to be enjoyable for all the people involved.

So, I'm telling you: you're not that much younger than me, only by a year. And I didn't really have that much more experience with sex than you up until these last few weeks. Of course, for the last few years, I HAVE been getting in touch with my own body and discovering what I like and what pleases me. I think when you do meet the right girl though, it will turn out just fine for you. Just be honest with her. Women love honesty. She might even find your naivety enduring.

Hey,

As a woman that is 5"11 (in heels 6'3) I have no problem dating a guy a (couple) inches shorter than me. It is all about his personality. I think there is such a stigma with the man needing to be taller than the woman not true in my eyes it is about how the person makes you feel and how you feel about the person if a girl really likes you it is for *you* not your height. Just don't be intimidated, you will never know if she would have liked you unless you try, wouldn't you rather know.

And actually I am head over heels for a guy that is a couple inches shorter than me and he is bald. (HA) I am personally hesitent to approach him because I’m afraid he won't like that I am taller than him. I am learning to get over this, I’m a tall girl in world where most women are shorter than me (actually never had a female friend taller than me). I just keep telling myself to get over it this is what makes me "ME" and I will embrase it and love it.

+ A little secret women love when a guy smiles there is nothing cuter and sexier when a guy is smiling, he looks confident and not cocky.

I hope I was helpfull

PS: A little ? for you, do shorter guys like dating taller women?

And ShotGun, Sorry to hear your troubles but how will you ever know what to do in bed if you don't even try (it will become a cycle), plus you don't always have to rush into a sexual situation with someone, take it slow hang as friends wait a couple months till you feel completely comfortable with the person. For all you know you could be a complete stud in bed and rock there world. But you will never know if you don't try.

I am extremely shy myself never know what to say always feel like I say the stupidest things but I try to remember that the other person probably feels the same way as well. A guy doesn't always have to be the smartest wittiest person all the time it’s how you treat the girls that is important.

hey hopefull,

I don't know about other guys but tbh, I date tall girls. This girl I've liked for 7 years since 7th grade is about 6' and I'm only 5'8. We never really got to officially date each other but we were very close and were on the phone every single day for 7 years. (ha! crazy isnt it). Something happened when we entered college and we just stopped talking to each other tho (sigh for this turn point). So, my point is, don't worry about your height, I'm sure there are guys who are attracted to tall girls. It's just they don't know how to START.

I was on the web totally for a different purpose & somehow got to this page. I could not help but signing up to let all the short guys out there know that "Personality Matters Most". I am a very attractive woman (I know it when guys talk about me or people make a comment about my beauty). I am 32 and married for a long time. I had a crush on a short guy when I was 21, however he really took his time to get back to me and we lost contact. I also have a guy friend who is short but he is extremely handsome & a hot guy!!! One of my girl friends worships him day and night but nothing is happenning between them because he is apparently very shy and she is so confused as if he does not like her... so my advice to all you "not so tall guys" is that excersie to maintain your health and posture and have self confidence. Girls love to be loved and have fun. Do not get intimidated with good looing girls, some of them have golden hearth (and ya some may be one too!!! sorry for the lang...) Anyhow, don't let the tall guys get them all, some of them do not really deserve it....

All the best!

Helo everyone! Im Kelvin and 29.

Ive never really had much of a problem about my height, im 5"4 1/2", have to get that 1/2 inch in, usually round up to 5"5". BUT, thats changed in the last couple of weeks or so.
I split with my girlfriend about 2 months ago, my decision, and have recently joined two internet dating sites. Now, im good looking, shved head, very fit, great body, great smile, but can i get any response from women who arnt (how do i put this, mingers), no.
Now, i prefer short, petite women, have had 3 long term relationships and all have been shorter than me, thats not to say i wouldnt go on a date with a taller woman though. However, i find that shorter women on this site are generally looking for tall men?!....
I didnt really have an issue with my height until i joined this site, its so frustrating!....

ive recently split from a 2 year relationship. Im 29 and 5"4 1/2", and to be totally honest, my height has never bothered me as i thought it didnt change womens opionion of me, as i am good looking with a great smile and like to keep myself very fit by working out (have appeared in a fitness magazine!) and play a lot of football (soccer if from the US!)

However, in the last couple of weeks or so ive joined a dating site. I was all optimistic, but now its really getting to me the lack of attention i have been getting. Must have contacted about 50 women in total. 2 resposes, one of which i did go on a date with, she was stunning, and we shared a kiss at the end of the night, but the next day her descision not to see me again. Ive even just rounded up my height to 5"6 to see if that sparks any interest, really bemused!.....

Being a short guy is one the criteria but is not the main thing,just develop on your personality and improve on your well beign they oooooh sorry she will surely come at the right time.