Posted 19 December 2009 - 12:36 PM
Master The Fine Art of Talking to Women?
What should you look for to know whether he/she's truthful and suitable mate for you? Date a woman on par with you. As in don't reach out of your league.
How to lead casual conversation with a romantic spark? Aspects of flirting that distinguish it from the ordinary courtesy. What are attraction turn-offs for most people?
How to find something in common to talk about? What kind of signs do girls give you when they're interested? Follow this advice and eventually you will have to work on figuring out which girls you want to keep.
Before I get into my questions I'd like you to get some background info before I start. I'm a single 24 years old, a bit over averege looking guy who has never ever been fortunate to be in a relationship with a girl. So, as you might've guessed: I've loads of issues when it comes to this particular area of life called dating with women. I'm certain a lot of you out there can recognize yourselves in what I have to say:
It's been a while since I started interacting with this girl in my class. As I'm a fairly open guy who like to make people laugh, I make this particular girl giggle and ocassionaly tease her by being sarcastic and somewhat cocky. I believe that she's given me a couple of indications of interest. I mean I could say practically anything and she'll either smile or giggle. But the thing is, I just cannot make a move. I'm not sure if it's too early to if I'm actually making up these beliefs.
I'm intimidated by this whole situation, this thing is directly connected to my fear of rejection which I, for the first time, experienced earlier this year by telling a girl about my emotions. My world flipped upside down over a night, I fell reach. A few days ago at the class served me with such a great opportunity in order to advance by telling her something like "I'm gonna grab something to eat, you should tag along" but you know what, I blew it big time. What's special about that specific day is that we shared our last lesson together for the term or perhaps even worse forever. She left without even saying goodbye, I don't want to seem needy by replying even in a sarcastic way about why she didn't say goodbye, would you? Something tells me "don't *beep* it up this time by being needy". Oh man, I get a headache out of this, I'm so eager to know what's really on her mind, how she thinks about me and if she's waiting for me to make the first move. Along with other issues in my life this thing which is such an important area of my life (or any guy for that matter) grows like a tumour and I really hate my self for not finding the right way of doing things before it's too late.
I really don't want this opportunity to vanish. I've composed an e-mail for a few days but I just cannot press the send button, it seems such an easy thing to do, but there's just something that holds me back.What you may ask, well the thing is that I don't consider my current social life to be interesting and fear that if she'll turn out to be my girlfriend she'll immediately dissappear from my life cause it's boring, monotone and therefore not relationship material. I really want to be more interesting and build up a solid social network but I just don't know how to do it. I've suffered enough from this, I want to make a radical change in my life once and for all, get rid of this pain called lonliness learn how to get some good friends, start some activities but most importantly to know how to communicate in 1 on 1 situations with a girl I like.
Suppose I did ask her for a cup of coffee or something, what should I say or do in order to come across as an interesting guy and a potential boyfriend. I don't want to lose this chance, this girl is great, she get's my sense of humour, she's healthy and look great. Please, I'm really in a desperate situation and depressed over this. Admittedly I've suicidal thoughts, I wonder if my life situation will ever change and if I ever could manage to have a life. Please do help, I could benefit from your thoughts around this.