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Posted 22 October 2009 - 08:00 AM
Hie..i am a 21 yr old woman..i am new to the whole dating thing..i met this 27 yr old guy at this festival..he asked me to meet up a couple of times..I ws a little timid at the start so i told him i would call him once my exams are dealt with..2days later he asks me if my papers are goin fine..n again suggest to meet up..i meet him..n the date goes well..i opens up abt his past relationships briefly..n makes this movie plan the next day.. Suprisingly he call up in the eve...and says he wud call me once he reaches home..i wait 4 a couple of hrs..den i msg him..i tels me he jus rechd home..n der ws a lot of traffic.. he asks me if i cud wait back so dt me cud atleast meet for half an hr.. while leaving he remings me abt the movie date the next day.. he msgs me at night. n now srts the misery..he doesnt call the next day..i msg him.. he den call up n asks me if i w sfree the next day..i wait 4 his call..he doesnt call back...
Two days later i send him a diwali msg and he replies back...questioning y din i call him..i reminded him that he ws suppose to call..he makes a plan dat eve..takes me out 4 dinner..the dinner date goes fairly good..asks me to call him..i call him up..he doenst pick up..next day he calls up asking me if i ws free in the eve..i promise to let him know by eve..wen i msg him in the eve...he doesnt reply..its been 3 days he hsnt gotten back... i dont understand wts goin on here...please help
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Should I Text Him? guy hasn't text back
MultiQuote#2 Guest_Bud_*
Posted 22 October 2009 - 10:14 AM
Dear casablanca
If a guy breaks up a date with you without apologizing or feeling in any way remorseful
for what he has done then he is not interested in you. If you are making all this effort
of chasing him early on then it's a very bad sign.
I'm surprised that you are not annoyed or angry in the way that he has treated you. Would
you really put up with this type of behavior from a friend yet alone a boyfriend? It's
just very rude and insincere of him and you shouldn't have to put up with that. You
definitely deserve better.
You should not contact him in any shape or form and should really be deleting his contact
number from your phone. The sooner that you put him out of your mind the better it is for
you. Relationships are build on trust and since he has not shown you any then he doesn't
deserve your time. Ditch him and keep your eyes open for someone better.
All the best - Bud.
If a guy breaks up a date with you without apologizing or feeling in any way remorseful
for what he has done then he is not interested in you. If you are making all this effort
of chasing him early on then it's a very bad sign.
I'm surprised that you are not annoyed or angry in the way that he has treated you. Would
you really put up with this type of behavior from a friend yet alone a boyfriend? It's
just very rude and insincere of him and you shouldn't have to put up with that. You
definitely deserve better.
You should not contact him in any shape or form and should really be deleting his contact
number from your phone. The sooner that you put him out of your mind the better it is for
you. Relationships are build on trust and since he has not shown you any then he doesn't
deserve your time. Ditch him and keep your eyes open for someone better.
All the best - Bud.
#4 Guest_Bud_*
Posted 22 October 2009 - 07:56 PM
Dear casablanca
If a guy was genuinely interested in you then there would be consistency with his actions. As much as initializing things can be interpreted as an interest his delivery of it sounds pretty disingenuous to me.
If you break up a date wouldn't you want to apologize and make that person feel at ease? You would if you cared about them enough. The way that he is treating you is almost like a very toned down version of a let's call it platonic booty call. Booty call girls are those that guys ring up at random and hook up with so that they can have fun together. Since they are not serious about having a relationship with them they treat them in a substandard manner.
Even though you are new to this dating thing, it's a very good idea to set standards early on and stick to them. If you are looking for a caring and supportive long term relationship then this in not going to be it. I think that he is taking liberties with you because you are young and he is more experienced.
If you think about it in terms of a power play situation then he would basically have all the hand because you are saying yes/contacting him whenever he tells you to. He says jump and your saying how high? For genuinely interested guys they would be the ones to dance to your tune to try to impress you. So the question that you really need to ask yourself is, are you impressed by this guy or are does he leave you confused and uncertain? If it's the latter than it's time to get out.
Regards - Bud.
If a guy was genuinely interested in you then there would be consistency with his actions. As much as initializing things can be interpreted as an interest his delivery of it sounds pretty disingenuous to me.
If you break up a date wouldn't you want to apologize and make that person feel at ease? You would if you cared about them enough. The way that he is treating you is almost like a very toned down version of a let's call it platonic booty call. Booty call girls are those that guys ring up at random and hook up with so that they can have fun together. Since they are not serious about having a relationship with them they treat them in a substandard manner.
Even though you are new to this dating thing, it's a very good idea to set standards early on and stick to them. If you are looking for a caring and supportive long term relationship then this in not going to be it. I think that he is taking liberties with you because you are young and he is more experienced.
If you think about it in terms of a power play situation then he would basically have all the hand because you are saying yes/contacting him whenever he tells you to. He says jump and your saying how high? For genuinely interested guys they would be the ones to dance to your tune to try to impress you. So the question that you really need to ask yourself is, are you impressed by this guy or are does he leave you confused and uncertain? If it's the latter than it's time to get out.
Regards - Bud.
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