Singles Dating Forum: Online Dating Relationships Advice: Confused! Had 3 Dates, Should I Ask Him Out? - Singles Dating Forum: Online Dating Relationships Advice

Ok, I've never used a forum before so im new to all this so bare with me!

I met this guy on nye, he is very shy. I gave him my number and he asked me out, we went for drinks a few days after, he paid for everything even my taxi which i thought was lovely. It was great, we got on so well, I think hes gorgeous, funny, intelligent. He told me on the date, he'd had a 10yr relationship and not dated much since. And told me he'd love to see me again, have me come over for dinner, so he could cook for me, which sounded lovely. He then asked me to go out for dinner the following weekend, when it came round he wasn't too well but still wanted to go, again had a really nice time. I thought him not being well but still taking me out showed he likes me. Im saying this cus im really bad at reading signs, i don't date often, so find it hard to read the signs!

After that date, I decided I would ask him out, as he'd made al the effort upto this point. I don't know it was being paranoid but, his texts just didn't seem as keen.. He txts me like everyday, so im probably being paranoid! We went out last weekend for drinks, had an amazing time again. Got on really well etc. He txt he the next day and everyday since, but he's not asked me out again, i dunno what to do! As Ia sked him last time, so don't want to seem too keen. Any advice???

I need to add this guy is really shy! He's uncomfortable kissing in public, and is always worrying how he comes across to me. He's told me hardly ever dates, and usually after 1 date doesnt go out with them again. I know he likes me cus he txts me everyday, and when i said next time we'll have to do something less alcohol fuelled, he was like definetly! I worry he may not have asked me cus hes shy, but then i think he asked me out twice when we first met.. Don't wanna seem too keen.

Please help me, cus i don't date much, and sometimes come across like im not bothered when all im trying to do is not be too keen!

Dear hollykins1982

You have probably made it quite clear to him that you are available to date if he wants to. If he no longer asks you out then it would not be because he is shy but because he doesn't think that you are his type.

From the sounds of things, he might very well be trying to play it cool and not appear to be too keen as to frighten you off. As long as he keeps in contact with you then there is every chance that he will ask you out again.

Just be yourself and play it out like you have always done. I'm thinking that playing it like your not bothered will work out in your favor. If he is keen on you then he should relish the chase.

Good luck with it - Bud.

the thing is is that i have already told him what i want and we have talked about our relationship before. everything he tells me doesnt make sense. i want to be with him but im not gonna waste my time with his mind games. hes playing the fense and i want to get out of him what he really wants but he wont tell me.

Alrightly, this guy must like you. He went out even though he was sick.

I understand the games thing completely, and that you don't want to wait a minute of time if it's not going to pay off.

But you must think, he told you that he hasn't dated much. And that he usually only does one date. He's done 3 with you so far. Soo your way a head of the game with him, take in consideration that he's afriad that if he's too presisant than he'll loose you.

My advice is to talk to him, get his point of view. Tell him exactly what your thinking, because let's face it men aren't the most rational creatures on the planet. (No offence) They do things all the time that make no sense. So give it a little more time, after you talk to him about it. Give him let's say about two weeks, if he doesn't shape up. Say bye bye.