Singles Dating Forum: Online Dating Relationships Advice: Is This More Than Flirting Or Am I Seeing Things? - Singles Dating Forum: Online Dating Relationships Advice

During the Party I was singing a love-song. He came back into the room without my seeing him and slipped quietly behind me, put his arms around my waist and gave me a gentle hug from behind. He proceeded to share my mic & sing the love song with me while still hugging me. Whenever we got to the chorus that had the words "I love you" he would sing those specific words softly into my left ear.

With his arms still wrapped around my waist,he did say loud enough for everyone in the room to hear, "this is going to be our song, ........." After the song was finished he just took his arms off my waist and walked off. Later on, I was duetting with someone else, he very lightly patted my backside as he left the room.

At some stage he put his hand ever so lightly on my back for i'd say almost a minute "directing me" (making the touch look so innocent). Although i had my back to him, I didn't have to turn to confirm he was the one with his hand on my back because I instinctively knew it was him.

His actions speak loud and clearly, I'd like to find a way of letting him know am flattered by his attention but nothing can happen between us, in the foreseeable future.

Dear scarlet

Ideally the best way to deter this guy from making his moves on you would be to stay away from him completely. If this is not possible because you share mutual friends then you should try to play the distance game whenever he is in the room.

To either move to another room if he is in the same room or to always have a few people between you. If you have a boyfriend then you can always stick by his side when he is in the room.

The guy is a touchy feely type of character. If you don't let him touch you then he should get the hint that you don't appreciate this type of behavior. Otherwise the next time that he touches you, just tell him "I've got a boyfriend". You don't even have to look at him when you do it and just move away from his grasp. Note: You might have to repeat this a few times before he gets the hint.

Good luck with it - Bud.

Thanks for the reply, Bud. There is a business relationship b'twn him and my boyfriend and therefore have to be careful how I put him off without ruining there friendship. What I have been thinking of doing is to make myself scare whenever I am likely to come into contact with him.

I am also thinking of trying to always be in the company of others, so that he will find it very difficult to make any contact. Anyway, I intend to let him know, in subtle ways, the flirting has to stop. I might have to do it afew times before he figures nothing is going to happen here.

The good thing is because I only get to see him like once or twice a year, I think he will get the message. When he also notes that I no longer go to functions or events, he will connect the dots for himself.