Singles Dating Forum: Online Dating Relationships Advice: Does This Friend Have A Little Crush? - Singles Dating Forum: Online Dating Relationships Advice

Hey guys,
I got myself an issue here. There's a friend of mine i've known for many months now. The girl is very attached to me.

The Bad

She's got a boyfriend overseas whom she hasn't seen in about a year. She puts me in my place time to time jokingly saying i'm like the "girl next door" for her and constantly talking about her boyfriend. It doesn't bother me much that i'm the guy she talks to about this stuff because i don't really allow myself to fall for her...I try to be a good friend.

I know these are all bad signs so we can skip the advice on that.

The Good

Having said this...if I am not online for a few days...she txts me to see what I've been up. I even got her to admit that she missed me one day...when I was out applying for jobs and got an urgent sounding txt from her that went someting like this...

hey where have you been? Call me okay?

I called her that night and she said how she hadn't seen me in awhile...and she admitted to missing me. She's also said how she walked by my old workplace with her mom one day and missed me then.

In person...she always points out things about my appearance...its like an obsession to her.

You have such long fingers....Nice hatt....I like your shirt.....Did you cut your hair? Oh no...your still ugly.

She's said stuff like that on seperate occasions There was this one time I went over to her place and one of her friends was there also...but after it was time to go....she wanted me to stay...it was clear. We went up to her parents bedroom and were just talking and chilling...and she was joking around so I threw my hat at her. It landed on her butt...and she saw me staring at it...so she took and put it under her chest while lying down on the bed...saying your not gonna get this back. I swear...I could have wrestled her on that bed alone in the room with her. She basically invited me to do so....but I thought twice about it.


The Barrier

When I met her...I was into her cousin and she helped set that up for me. She was into one of my close friends and I helped set that up for her...and thats how we became close. This ofcourse puts me in my place again...cause it has always been about her cousin and me....not her and me.

I think I am one of those guy friends who kind of gives her what her boyfriend cant provide at the moment because of the distance. But its like once her boyfriend comes here...I'll be tossed to the side. I also feel...she does have a little thing for me but she constantly reminds herself not to do anything because of obvious reasons. Thats why she puts me in my place time to time. I respect their relationship and my friendship with her which is why I have not flirted with her.

To be honest...she has grown on me a little bit and it does bother me.

What do you guys think?

Beachead

hi

just a personal opinion. This girl is interested in occasional flirting and fun, but not in a relationship. Yet as she's grown on you and she has in a way long distant relationship you need to know where do you stand.

And that's what I would try to find out now if I were you.

Chris