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My boyfriend shows some signs of affection. He holds my hand when we are out together. Sometimes, when his mind is occupied with work and other issues, he doesn't. I never really held hands in my last two relationships.
He even holds my hand sometimes when we're driving. But he doesn't respond to caresses, he just allows me to hold him. He puts his hand on my back to guide me away from harm. He makes sure my comfort comes before his.
Apparently some guys have never learnt to continue courtship behavior beyond first getting the girl. I think it's just so foreign to his nature. He says that it becomes harder for him to do these things, as he gets closer and more familiar to someone.
Maybe the thrill of the chase made him overlook his usual discomfort. You're not in love with him; you're in love with the feeling you have when you're around him.
To estimate affection, ask yourself, does he try to be helpful?
Is he a good friend?
Does he respect you?
Does he make you feel like a lady?
Does he try to show you appreciation with everything he does?
If your answer is no to the last question, then the problems lie elsewhere; but if the answer is yes, then will you let him go because he doesn't know how to say the words?
Bottom line: I had seen so many men say those words, so cheaply, just to get their want.
I would tell you to find another guy, if you decide to stick it out with this one you're going to have to redefine what a relationship is and then live it out that way. For more tips about continuing courtship behavior beyond first date, refer to e-books in series “ Relationships: Puzzles and Answers ” :
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