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I'm usually pretty good at picking up on whether someone has an interest in me. So I sensed a man whom I know for some time did. For months we gave each other secret looks.
When he looked at me I turned away and when I looked at him he turned away. I'm still fighting the attraction.
I do think he finds you attractive, or he would not be staring. People only stare for 2 reasons:
1) You look good; or
2) You look bad.
I assume he stares because of the first one He has noticed you, that is for sure. I think no matter where you are in the world, when a man is interested in a woman, he will naturally come to you, maybe sooner, maybe later.
I think you are feeling a thrill because you have caught someone's eye. But I feel women must be able to separate what a thrill is meant to simply enjoy without expectation, and an attraction, which should be pursued.
I would continue to enjoy any attention he gave you, but that is it. He sounds very immature. If he is sending his friends over to you instead of coming by himself, he is either shy or very full of himself. I would continue to enjoy his stares, that mean you look good, but nothing further. It is fine to flirt with men
Bottom line: So to send a friend over as if to “ summon you ” is arrogant and shows a lack of confidence on his part. My suggestion is: don't get involved with anyone who is so hot he is always sought after by a lot of women, that just spells trouble.
I would not call him or strike up a conversation with him at all. Let him do that. If he is interested in a relationship, he will do that. Don't allow the thrill of catching a younger man's eye cloud your judgment. For more tips about attracting stares from men, refer to e-books in series “ Relationships: Puzzles and Answers ” :
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