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I'm in love with my best friend and I think I've always had feelings for her. I don't remember how many times I've given her advice on guys, when in fact I wanted to tell her that I was better than that other guy she got attracted to. She means everything to me, but she's too focused on stupid meaningless hookups than a real relationship.
If telling her means that our friendship would suffer and it would hurt her emotionally, than I would continue on as is, hurting myself rather than her.
It is not uncommon for people to develop very strong feelings for their best friend. If a guy is really making her unhappy, then it is probably only a matter of time before her relationship with the other guy is over.
What you can do is still be there for her as a friend, yet respect the fact that she has a relationship with someone else. When / if she tells you that her relationship is over, that will be the appropriate time to tell her how you feel.
When that time should come, if I were you, I would not tell her how strong your feelings are, because she may love you, but only as a great platonic friend only and nothing more. I don't think you'd want to stick your neck out that far, only to find that the feelings are not mutual.
I strongly advise against anyone ever loving anyone "more than life". I have learned to be "more selfish", meaning never, ever love someone more than I love myself. The reason is that you may find that the other person's feelings are not mutual, and getting over that is painful.
Bottom line: I suspect that your attraction to her may be due to human nature: we want most what we cannot have. The less someone is available to us, the more attractive they seem, and our feelings for that person become magnified.
The respectful thing for you to do would be to NOT tell her how you feel while she is in a relationship with someone else. Just be there for her. When the time comes, do not hesitate to tell her you that you would like to date her. To learn if your female friend has feelings for you?, refer to e-books in the series “ Relationships: Puzzles and Answers ” :
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