How to start and keep conversation with men going?

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How to start and keep conversation with women going?

This is the email course aimed at making you comfortable in meeting and talking to women. As a guy you need to make yourself comfortable and easy going in woman’s company. This course will be delivered to your mailbox over the next 8 days.

Here are contents at a glance:

Part 1: Do you feel you have difficulties starting to talk to men?
Part 2: Meeting men: How do you keep the conversation going?
Part 3: How to know if a man is spoken for?
Part 4: What to say once you walk up to the guy?

Part 1: Do you feel you have difficulties starting to talk to men?

Ok, if you're not inclined to start a conversation if the man isn't looking at you, how about doing something that will get him to look at you? Something really simple, like maybe just saying "Hi".

"You know, I don't work here, but I'd just like you to know that I would help you with whatever it is that you could possibly want or need..."

Who is expected to approach first?

Let your humour fit the situation, and yes, it is ok to scope the store out for possible topics before you go cruising.  You may want to keep it simple but organized.

Confidence is important.  It's a turn on for men, and can be for women as well, right? Anything that impresses a man is useful in the pick up situation. Humour and confidence are usually the highest ranked in polls and surveys, and if you don't trust surveys, ask them yourself.  Men love to talk about themselves, so asking him a few questions could be a great way to break the ice. 

Part 2: Meeting men: How do you keep the conversation going?

You should show an active interest in him as a person. You will probably find that if you ask some questions here and there that he will keep the conversation flowing.

By that time you should be able to pick up on things here and there in his life that you can get him to elaborate on or discuss further.

Engage a man in a casual conversation

There is nothing that you can really say that will sweep a guy off his feet. If he is into you then you can basically talk about anything and everything.

Even though we might want to express ourselves beautifully in front of men of our dreams realistically it isn't all that necessary. If a man likes you and your heart and intention is in the right place then he will get you no matter what you say and will accept you for who you are.

Part 3: How to know if a man is spoken for?

It tends to be harder to meet men in a public place. You have to pretty much declare your interest up front, and you can't be worried about making mistakes. This isn't easy for shy people.

It's true; men don't like women who are needy.  But, just because you are needy doesn't mean you have to make a general announcement.

What is the best place to meet and socialize with people?

Anyway, you're going to have to be patient.  My advice is to keep meeting men in low-key situations (i.e. clubs or classes or something like that).  It's no guarantee that they'll like you, but it's a start.

Probably you've been going to these places hoping something would happen on its own.  It won't.

1.) Know who is you aimed woman.  Check body signals, status signals, etc...  And you can figure out a lot about the prospect.

Part 4: What to say once you walk up to the guy?

Asking him a substantive question about the item gets him talking.  When he talks, he reveals information about himself.  Work with it; use that information.  Remember, he has positive associations with that item, so talking about it makes him continue to feel those positive associations!

Get a man talking

Here's a basic "introduction pattern":  Compliment a man on something he is wearing or doing, ask him something substantive about it, and be prepared to follow up at least twice about some other subject, preferably based on something in his reply.

Most men are extremely aware of styles of dress and articles of clothing. One man I know says that the first thing he checks out on a woman is her shoes (!). 

If a woman is wearing cheap or scuffed shoes, or shoes with synthetic rather than leather soles, he's already got a big strike against her. 

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