How to meet men online: through dating service or personal ad?

If you are looking to meeting man online I’m about to say few of my impressions about that way of introducing people. I got the following impressions from having spoken to several men online.

What men expect from women whom they meet online?

1. Men love fantasies, and there is no safer place to explore these than the internet. They might be serious about trying to find someone, or maybe not. Maybe they want to cheat on their girlfriends without actually cheating. They could just be looking for some attachment-free fun.

2. Assuming the pictures are real, some are hansome, some not. I was pleasantly surprised at the looks of some of them. I don't think that looks are necessarily a problem.

3. Most of the ones I talked to were polite. One man I spoke to pleaded with me to have a "normal" conversation, because he had been bombarded with explicit tells. I did not have a problem with this, so I started to talk to him in a usual conversational fashion, asking about his life, job, and so on.

4. I found most of the men to be of above-average intelligence. I also found many of them to be deceitful, or at least not upfront about their motives.

Tips to introducing and meeting men online

I've met a quite a lot of men from online. What you do is warm them up in the phone call, be yourself, talk about them, do a warm-up. You may, if you wish, go through two phone calls. At the end of the first phone call, I say, "Hey let's get coffee sometime."

I then recommend we meet at some public coffee shop. Depending on who you are dealing with, a number of different strategies are required.  Let's review:

1.  DO NOT PRESSURE HIM TO MEET YOU! A better approach is to let him know you have two categories of men online: those you plan to meet, and those you do not.  Until he makes plans to meet, or hints at it, do not REWARD him with top attention.  Talk to him online as if he were just someone to pass time with and not take seriously.

2.  MOTIVATE HIM TO MEET YOU IF YOU LIKE HIM! To do this well, you have to factor out anything he said about meeting or not meeting.

3.  LET HER COME TO YOU!  I have a standard policy for meeting men from online: I pay for the calls to them, they pay to come see me, and I pay for whatever we do when they get here. Then I don’t feel any pressure I have to continue seeing him afterwards if I actually don’t like him. He could not complain for being misguided ever.

You have as much to look out for as he does.  In the course of simply protecting yourself, you can answer a lot of your questions and also overcome resistance.

Finally the online dating service I recommend is: SinglesNET if you live in America. You can browse profiles of men by many factors:

Age,
Distance from your place,
Personal preferences, like sports, hobbies, smoking habits etc.
Pictures,
Contact them anonymously, make favourite profiles and so on.