How to meet women online: through dating service or personal ad?

If you are looking to meeting woman online I’m about to say few of my impressions about that way of meeting people. I got the following impressions from having spoken to several women online.

What do women expect from men who they meet online?

1. Women love fantasies, and there is no safer place to explore these than the internet. They might be serious about trying to find someone, or maybe not. Maybe they want to cheat on their husbands/boyfriends without "actually" cheating. They could just be looking for some attachment-free fun.

2. Assuming the pictures are real, some are pretty, some not. I was pleasantly surprised at the looks of some of them. I don't think that looks are necessarily a problem.

3. Most of the ones I talked to were polite. One woman I spoke to pleaded with me to have a "normal" conversation, because she had been bombarded with explicit tells. I did not have a problem with this, so I started to talk to her in a usual conversational fashion, asking about her life, job, and so on.

4. I found most of the women to be of above-average intelligence. I also found many of them to be devious, or at least not upfront about their motives.

Tips to introducing and meeting women online

I've met a quite a lot of women from online. What you do is warm them up in the phone call, be yourself, talk about them, do a warm-up. You may, if you wish, go through two phone calls. At the end of the first phone call, I say, "Hey let's get coffee sometime."

I then recommend we meet at some public coffee shop. Depending on who you are dealing with, a number of different strategies are required.  Let's review:

1.  DO NOT PRESSURE HER TO MEET YOU! A better approach is to let her know you have two categories of women online: those you plan to meet, and those you do not.  Until she makes plans to meet, or hints at it, do not REWARD her with top attention.  Talk to her online as if she were just someone to pass time with and not take seriously.

2.  MOTIVATE HER TO MEET YOU! To do this well, you have to factor out anything she said about meeting or not meeting.

3.  LET HER COME TO YOU!  I have a standard policy for meeting women from online: I pay for the calls to them, they pay to come see me, and I pay for whatever we do when they get here. Then I don’t feel any pressure I have to continue with her beyond if I actually don’t like her. She could not complain for being misguided ever.

You have as much to look out for as she does.  In the course of simply protecting yourself, you can answer a lot of your questions and also overcome resistance.

Finally the online dating service I recommend is: American Singles if you live in America. You can browse profiles of women by many factors:

Age,
Distance from your place,
Personal preferences, like sports, hobbies, smoking habits etc.
Pictures,
Contact them anonymously; make favourite profiles and so on.